Mantra Monday: There are no problems only situations

Just over a week ago I told you I was adopting the Jamaican saying, “There are no problems, only situations” as my new mantra.  This is the first installment of Mantra Monday.  On Monday’s, I’ll be sharing how I’ve put that mantra into action and asking you to think about how you can or have used that mantra yourself in the past week.

I have two ways I used this mantra this week. On Memorial Day evening our family was returning home from our activities and Ian asked me to open his bottle of Root beer.  I opened it, there was a pause and suddenly it started bubbling over.  Root beer splattered down my shirt, on the center console, glove box, floor and passenger door before I could close the top again!

On a normal day, I would have freaked out about how sticky it is and difficult to clean.  This time, I took a breath and chose to laugh about it.  It wasn’t a problem only a situation.  I asked the boys for one of the towels they had in the back and wiped it up.  Situation resolved! And we were all able to laugh about how silly I looked the rest of the way home!

My second situation was just this weekend.  I had a wedding to go to with my mom and I ended up wearing my blue dress.  I usually wear silver shoes with it, but I had to toss because they broke the last I wore them.  I grabbed a pair of clear shoes with silver accents that I thought fit.  As time went on, my shoes were really uncomfortable.  I don’t know why, but I decided to look at the size.  They were a size 7!  I’m in a 7 1/2!  Typically, I would have probably decided to still wear them, but complain about how uncomfortable they were.

However, this time, I was able to take a step back and see that the issue could be easily resolved.   There were a couple of hours between the ceremony and the reception, so we used some of the extra time to run to the store and look for some shoes that fit.  I found an awesome pair of silver shoes that looked great with my dress and will look awesome with some of my other outfits as well.  Situation resolved!

I would love to hear how thinking of something as a situation instead of a problem changed how you handled it.

Let me know in the comments below!

 

My New Mantra!

Hi Everyone!  Sorry for my absence the last couple weeks.  I recently took a trip and have spent this past week shuttling kids between baseball games and practices.  I finally have time to put into words what I have been thinking about all week.

Last week I went to Jamaica with my husband and our friends.  We went to a beautiful all-inclusive resort where I didn’t have to run errands, plan dinner or clean up after anyone.  All I did for the week was relax and have fun. It was such a blast!   Jamaica is absolutely beautiful.  I don’t know exactly what I was expecting, but I was surprised that it was so green and mountainous.  We spent a couple days down by the pool and did some offsite activities as well.  The first offsite activity was a catamaran trip that included snorkeling and a stop at ‘Margaretville’ where we got to go down a waterslide from the patio into the ocean.  How cool is that!

We spent the next day at the ‘Good Hope Plantation’.  We went ATVing, ziplining, tubing down the lazy river, through the challenge course and then spent time with the crazy parakeets in the aviary and ended the day with a bit of rum tasting.  It was so much fun and all of the guides were great!

Everywhere we went we met people from the island and they were so nice.  They seemed genuinely happy to be talking to you and spending the time doing what they do.  The bartenders were laughing and having fun with the patrons.  The boat crew was partying with the guests, the ATV and Zipline guides were having a grand ole time.

Every guide who drove us around pointed out the 4 basic phrases we needed to know:

  1. The definition of/when to use Yeah Man (Yeah Mon as we all hear it)
  2. How to say OK or I’m Alright (Irie)
  3. How to say no. (E-E.  Sorry I have no idea how to phonetically spell)
  4. There are no problems, only situations (Hence the phrase No Problem Man)

The last one is what I am making my new mantra.  There are no problems only situations:  To me, this means something might be happening right now, but it will work out.  We don’t know how yet, but we can let it play its course or we can choose to find the best way out of the situation at the time.

If you know me, you know I’m wound a bit tight.  I suffer from anxiety, so sometimes small situations seem big to me.  I stress out over the big stuff, but also over the small stuff.  I’m noticing sometimes my kids are starting to be bothered by some of the small issues too and I want them to be able to handle things better than I do.  I need to be a good role model on how to take things in stride.

I also don’t want to be stressed out all the time.  I want to be more like the people in Jamaica and take things in stride.  I also want to be relaxed like I was when I was there.  So I’m going to adopt the mantra, “There are no problems only situations”.  The hard part is that it’s not something I can just turn on.  I wish I could just flip a switch and be like, “oh well, it’s not a problem only a situation, relax and it will work out.”  If only!  The busyness of life creeps in and I forget to be mindful and because I’m not mindful, I forget about the mantra.  So in an effort to remind myself that there are no problems only situations, I’m going to start posting on Mondays.  I’ll call it Mantra Monday.  I’ll be posting on how I mindfully lived and acted on that Mantra over the prior week.  Right now is the perfect time to start this as right now we are crazy busy with the boy’s baseball.  We spend a minimum of 4 days a week with baseball, some days both boys have games.  I’ve got to keep the house up, make meals and make it to games each week and I’m going to use this mantra to change my mindset from stressing out and panicking, when things interrupt the plan I’ve set for the week so I can just enjoy these times I have with my boys because they are growing so fast.

So in an effort to remind myself that there are no problems only situations, I’m going to start posting on Mondays and call it ‘Mantra Monday’.  I’ll be posting on how I mindfully lived and acted on that Mantra over the prior week.  Right now is the perfect time to start this as right now we are crazy busy with the boy’s baseball.  We spend a minimum of 4 days a week with baseball, some days both boys have games.  I’ve got to keep the house up, make meals and make it to games each week and I’m going to use this mantra to change my mindset from stressing out and panicking, when things interrupt the plan I’ve set for the week so I can just enjoy these times I have with my boys because they are growing so fast.

So, I invite you to check out some of the pictures from my vacation below and join me on Mantra Mondays.  Do you have a mantra?  Share it below.

Jamaica trip