When you try to avoid the proverbial brick wall….

Have you ever been so busy that you see the proverbial brick wall in the distance and know you are headed right for it?  If you’re like me, you probably think you can avoid it, even go around it maybe.  But then wham!  Suddenly it’s right in front of you and there’s no way to avoid it.  Not only that, but you’ve run right into it.

That’s what happened to us last week.  We’ve had a couple of busy weeks recently and had baseball almost every night for the last two weeks.  The weekends weren’t any better as we had a birthday party to prep for after baseball on Saturday and the actual party on Sunday.  Then last week most of our games were late and the kids didn’t even get to bed before 10.  Two of those game nights we had team pictures and if course the pictures overlapped the game times.  Thank goodness we have two cars, we were able to run one to pictures and bring them to their siblings game later.

I was hoping to avoid it, but Thursday I ran smack dab into that proverbial brick wall.  Exhaustion completely overtook me. I couldn’t push myself to do anything extra. (I’m a few days behind on my 30 days of fitness.)  I could barely get through work and scrape dinner together.  Even sitting through the baseball game of the evening was rough.  I always think I can avoid the brick wall that is exhaustion, but at some point my body always says, “Enough!”.

The boys had also been doing pretty good, until Thursday.  Vincent has been working so hard and keeping is emotions in check during his games (we’ve had some problems in past years), but Thursday he just couldn’t do it anymore.  He completely lost his composure and was way to hard on himself and spiraled into one of his meltdowns.  There was no stopping it.  It’s rather embarrassing at the age he is, but it comes with the territory of raising a highly emotional child…we can only continue to help guide him so he learns to manage them in a healthy way and work with his pediatrician, who says it’s a normal thing as their brains still aren’t developed all the way in certain areas.  But, to be fair, he did pretty good since he was up at 6:00 every day to get to summer camp on time and baseball kept him up past 10 all week.

Thankfully we have a lighter load this week and this past weekend we were able to relax a bit.  Saturday morning, I was able to get my meals planned and made plans to buy items for my morning smoothies, I have really missed those this past month.  Later that evening we were able to go take in the summer festival that my hometown has.  We even got to stay up for Fireworks!  Sunday we had a lazy morning for Father’s day and my birthday and then decided last minute to buy some tickets for the local baseball game.  It was a fun family day.  I didn’t get my smoothies prepped for the week, but that’s easy enough to do tonight.
Next week will be busy again, we will have a heavy load of games.  We will have games almost every day of the week since the following week is 4th of July and many families will be out of town all week.  So, wish us luck!
Mantra Monday: ‘There are no problems, only situations’
The post that preceded was intended to be put up over the weekend, but we as a family, decided to take it easy this weekend and relax and do some fun things.  That is my successful use of my mantra this week.  Not to push a deadline and stress myself out, but to take the time to enjoy the family.  I can write any day and I’m sure my audience doesn’t mind if I take a slow approach to posting sometimes.  Especially since I’m spending that time with my family.

Mantra Monday: It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to….or not.

“There are no problems, only situations.”

This weekend I had to use my mantra quite a bit.

On Saturday, the boys had back to back baseball games.  We were at the field from Noon till around 4 pm.  There were two ‘situations’:

1) it was supposed to be in the 90’s with a heat index of 100 What is one to do about lunch for both boys?

2) The first game was at lunch time and I have to make sure my boys eat somewhat healthy.  If they have too much junk food or simple carbs, they process it too fast and get hungry, cranky and poor attitudes when the game doesn’t go their way.

A cooler was the answer to both issues.  We packed a cooler for all of us.  We packed a ton of water and some Gatorade for the boys to keep hydrated.  We also put lots of good food in the cooler for the boys.  We packed, strawberries, watermelon, trail mix, bananas, etc.  We made a (somewhat) healthy lunch by buying a hotdog from the concession stand and filling in the rest with what we brought.  One of the boys ate before his game and the other ate when he finished his game.

My other ‘situation’ was party preparation and clean up.  We’ve been so busy with baseball that I hadn’t had time to shop for food or clean the house.  Normally shopping and cleaning would have taken me through the night since I got such a late start and I would have been panicking about how everything had to get done and be just so.

We got home from the game around 4:30 And my mom and I hit up Costco, then proceeded to Aldi, Wal-Mart, and another local grocery store. We didn’t get home until after 7pm.  After dinner and getting the boys to bed it was after 9.   We prepped some of the food and then I decided we’d have to clean as much as we can in the morning.

The next morning we got most of the cleaning done.  Floors didn’t get washed, they got picked up and vacuumed/swept and bathrooms got cleaned.  The party went great and clean up wasn’t too bad.  It’s the first party in a long time I’ve hosted for the kids that I didn’t end up until midnight getting ready.  I felt so much more relaxed and less anxious.

I’m really liking  telling myself things aren’t problems or big deals and just finding the best alternative that works the best for the time I have.  It’s really helping cut down on my anxiety.  How has thinking this way about problems helped you?  Do you have a mantra you follow?  Share with us in the comments below.