Remember Yourself

Happy Saturday!  I hope everyone is having a great day.  We’re spending our day staying warm inside watching movies.  I’ll have to get motivated to go out for a few errands later, but for now, we’re enjoying family time.

Just a reminder to everyone, for as much as we should be helping out others in their times of need and/or distress, don’t forget to also do things for you.  Having too much stress in your own life isn’t healthy and your health is important too.

I myself have made two life decisions this week and somehow after making those decisions things feel less stressful and overall I have a feeling of peace.  The first decision I made was to start TaeKwonDo again.  I had to stop in April because the kids’ baseball took up nearly every day.  I was going to start this week but forgot we had several commitments already.  Rather than stress about fitting it all in, I called the instructor and told him I’d be starting the beginning of December.  The second decision is something that I’m not going to do for several months, so at this time I’m not going to share.  However, just making the decision seems to have taken a great burden off my shoulders and has left me feeling at peace.

Have a great rest of the weekend and remember to Relax just like Purrdy!

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When you try to avoid the proverbial brick wall….

Have you ever been so busy that you see the proverbial brick wall in the distance and know you are headed right for it?  If you’re like me, you probably think you can avoid it, even go around it maybe.  But then wham!  Suddenly it’s right in front of you and there’s no way to avoid it.  Not only that, but you’ve run right into it.

That’s what happened to us last week.  We’ve had a couple of busy weeks recently and had baseball almost every night for the last two weeks.  The weekends weren’t any better as we had a birthday party to prep for after baseball on Saturday and the actual party on Sunday.  Then last week most of our games were late and the kids didn’t even get to bed before 10.  Two of those game nights we had team pictures and if course the pictures overlapped the game times.  Thank goodness we have two cars, we were able to run one to pictures and bring them to their siblings game later.

I was hoping to avoid it, but Thursday I ran smack dab into that proverbial brick wall.  Exhaustion completely overtook me. I couldn’t push myself to do anything extra. (I’m a few days behind on my 30 days of fitness.)  I could barely get through work and scrape dinner together.  Even sitting through the baseball game of the evening was rough.  I always think I can avoid the brick wall that is exhaustion, but at some point my body always says, “Enough!”.

The boys had also been doing pretty good, until Thursday.  Vincent has been working so hard and keeping is emotions in check during his games (we’ve had some problems in past years), but Thursday he just couldn’t do it anymore.  He completely lost his composure and was way to hard on himself and spiraled into one of his meltdowns.  There was no stopping it.  It’s rather embarrassing at the age he is, but it comes with the territory of raising a highly emotional child…we can only continue to help guide him so he learns to manage them in a healthy way and work with his pediatrician, who says it’s a normal thing as their brains still aren’t developed all the way in certain areas.  But, to be fair, he did pretty good since he was up at 6:00 every day to get to summer camp on time and baseball kept him up past 10 all week.

Thankfully we have a lighter load this week and this past weekend we were able to relax a bit.  Saturday morning, I was able to get my meals planned and made plans to buy items for my morning smoothies, I have really missed those this past month.  Later that evening we were able to go take in the summer festival that my hometown has.  We even got to stay up for Fireworks!  Sunday we had a lazy morning for Father’s day and my birthday and then decided last minute to buy some tickets for the local baseball game.  It was a fun family day.  I didn’t get my smoothies prepped for the week, but that’s easy enough to do tonight.
Next week will be busy again, we will have a heavy load of games.  We will have games almost every day of the week since the following week is 4th of July and many families will be out of town all week.  So, wish us luck!
Mantra Monday: ‘There are no problems, only situations’
The post that preceded was intended to be put up over the weekend, but we as a family, decided to take it easy this weekend and relax and do some fun things.  That is my successful use of my mantra this week.  Not to push a deadline and stress myself out, but to take the time to enjoy the family.  I can write any day and I’m sure my audience doesn’t mind if I take a slow approach to posting sometimes.  Especially since I’m spending that time with my family.

Mantra Monday: It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to….or not.

“There are no problems, only situations.”

This weekend I had to use my mantra quite a bit.

On Saturday, the boys had back to back baseball games.  We were at the field from Noon till around 4 pm.  There were two ‘situations’:

1) it was supposed to be in the 90’s with a heat index of 100 What is one to do about lunch for both boys?

2) The first game was at lunch time and I have to make sure my boys eat somewhat healthy.  If they have too much junk food or simple carbs, they process it too fast and get hungry, cranky and poor attitudes when the game doesn’t go their way.

A cooler was the answer to both issues.  We packed a cooler for all of us.  We packed a ton of water and some Gatorade for the boys to keep hydrated.  We also put lots of good food in the cooler for the boys.  We packed, strawberries, watermelon, trail mix, bananas, etc.  We made a (somewhat) healthy lunch by buying a hotdog from the concession stand and filling in the rest with what we brought.  One of the boys ate before his game and the other ate when he finished his game.

My other ‘situation’ was party preparation and clean up.  We’ve been so busy with baseball that I hadn’t had time to shop for food or clean the house.  Normally shopping and cleaning would have taken me through the night since I got such a late start and I would have been panicking about how everything had to get done and be just so.

We got home from the game around 4:30 And my mom and I hit up Costco, then proceeded to Aldi, Wal-Mart, and another local grocery store. We didn’t get home until after 7pm.  After dinner and getting the boys to bed it was after 9.   We prepped some of the food and then I decided we’d have to clean as much as we can in the morning.

The next morning we got most of the cleaning done.  Floors didn’t get washed, they got picked up and vacuumed/swept and bathrooms got cleaned.  The party went great and clean up wasn’t too bad.  It’s the first party in a long time I’ve hosted for the kids that I didn’t end up until midnight getting ready.  I felt so much more relaxed and less anxious.

I’m really liking  telling myself things aren’t problems or big deals and just finding the best alternative that works the best for the time I have.  It’s really helping cut down on my anxiety.  How has thinking this way about problems helped you?  Do you have a mantra you follow?  Share with us in the comments below.

 

 

 

Mantra Monday: There are no problems only situations

Just over a week ago I told you I was adopting the Jamaican saying, “There are no problems, only situations” as my new mantra.  This is the first installment of Mantra Monday.  On Monday’s, I’ll be sharing how I’ve put that mantra into action and asking you to think about how you can or have used that mantra yourself in the past week.

I have two ways I used this mantra this week. On Memorial Day evening our family was returning home from our activities and Ian asked me to open his bottle of Root beer.  I opened it, there was a pause and suddenly it started bubbling over.  Root beer splattered down my shirt, on the center console, glove box, floor and passenger door before I could close the top again!

On a normal day, I would have freaked out about how sticky it is and difficult to clean.  This time, I took a breath and chose to laugh about it.  It wasn’t a problem only a situation.  I asked the boys for one of the towels they had in the back and wiped it up.  Situation resolved! And we were all able to laugh about how silly I looked the rest of the way home!

My second situation was just this weekend.  I had a wedding to go to with my mom and I ended up wearing my blue dress.  I usually wear silver shoes with it, but I had to toss because they broke the last I wore them.  I grabbed a pair of clear shoes with silver accents that I thought fit.  As time went on, my shoes were really uncomfortable.  I don’t know why, but I decided to look at the size.  They were a size 7!  I’m in a 7 1/2!  Typically, I would have probably decided to still wear them, but complain about how uncomfortable they were.

However, this time, I was able to take a step back and see that the issue could be easily resolved.   There were a couple of hours between the ceremony and the reception, so we used some of the extra time to run to the store and look for some shoes that fit.  I found an awesome pair of silver shoes that looked great with my dress and will look awesome with some of my other outfits as well.  Situation resolved!

I would love to hear how thinking of something as a situation instead of a problem changed how you handled it.

Let me know in the comments below!