My New Mantra!

Hi Everyone!  Sorry for my absence the last couple weeks.  I recently took a trip and have spent this past week shuttling kids between baseball games and practices.  I finally have time to put into words what I have been thinking about all week.

Last week I went to Jamaica with my husband and our friends.  We went to a beautiful all-inclusive resort where I didn’t have to run errands, plan dinner or clean up after anyone.  All I did for the week was relax and have fun. It was such a blast!   Jamaica is absolutely beautiful.  I don’t know exactly what I was expecting, but I was surprised that it was so green and mountainous.  We spent a couple days down by the pool and did some offsite activities as well.  The first offsite activity was a catamaran trip that included snorkeling and a stop at ‘Margaretville’ where we got to go down a waterslide from the patio into the ocean.  How cool is that!

We spent the next day at the ‘Good Hope Plantation’.  We went ATVing, ziplining, tubing down the lazy river, through the challenge course and then spent time with the crazy parakeets in the aviary and ended the day with a bit of rum tasting.  It was so much fun and all of the guides were great!

Everywhere we went we met people from the island and they were so nice.  They seemed genuinely happy to be talking to you and spending the time doing what they do.  The bartenders were laughing and having fun with the patrons.  The boat crew was partying with the guests, the ATV and Zipline guides were having a grand ole time.

Every guide who drove us around pointed out the 4 basic phrases we needed to know:

  1. The definition of/when to use Yeah Man (Yeah Mon as we all hear it)
  2. How to say OK or I’m Alright (Irie)
  3. How to say no. (E-E.  Sorry I have no idea how to phonetically spell)
  4. There are no problems, only situations (Hence the phrase No Problem Man)

The last one is what I am making my new mantra.  There are no problems only situations:  To me, this means something might be happening right now, but it will work out.  We don’t know how yet, but we can let it play its course or we can choose to find the best way out of the situation at the time.

If you know me, you know I’m wound a bit tight.  I suffer from anxiety, so sometimes small situations seem big to me.  I stress out over the big stuff, but also over the small stuff.  I’m noticing sometimes my kids are starting to be bothered by some of the small issues too and I want them to be able to handle things better than I do.  I need to be a good role model on how to take things in stride.

I also don’t want to be stressed out all the time.  I want to be more like the people in Jamaica and take things in stride.  I also want to be relaxed like I was when I was there.  So I’m going to adopt the mantra, “There are no problems only situations”.  The hard part is that it’s not something I can just turn on.  I wish I could just flip a switch and be like, “oh well, it’s not a problem only a situation, relax and it will work out.”  If only!  The busyness of life creeps in and I forget to be mindful and because I’m not mindful, I forget about the mantra.  So in an effort to remind myself that there are no problems only situations, I’m going to start posting on Mondays.  I’ll call it Mantra Monday.  I’ll be posting on how I mindfully lived and acted on that Mantra over the prior week.  Right now is the perfect time to start this as right now we are crazy busy with the boy’s baseball.  We spend a minimum of 4 days a week with baseball, some days both boys have games.  I’ve got to keep the house up, make meals and make it to games each week and I’m going to use this mantra to change my mindset from stressing out and panicking, when things interrupt the plan I’ve set for the week so I can just enjoy these times I have with my boys because they are growing so fast.

So in an effort to remind myself that there are no problems only situations, I’m going to start posting on Mondays and call it ‘Mantra Monday’.  I’ll be posting on how I mindfully lived and acted on that Mantra over the prior week.  Right now is the perfect time to start this as right now we are crazy busy with the boy’s baseball.  We spend a minimum of 4 days a week with baseball, some days both boys have games.  I’ve got to keep the house up, make meals and make it to games each week and I’m going to use this mantra to change my mindset from stressing out and panicking, when things interrupt the plan I’ve set for the week so I can just enjoy these times I have with my boys because they are growing so fast.

So, I invite you to check out some of the pictures from my vacation below and join me on Mantra Mondays.  Do you have a mantra?  Share it below.

Jamaica trip

Sometimes we need to celebrate small victories

As a working mom, with two boys who keep me busy, it’s very difficult to keep the house clean.  I constantly find myself apologizing to our guests for the mess.  I never seem to have enough time to get to everything done.  I get one room clean and by the time I have time to clean the next room the first is messy again.  It’s a battle to keep the house in the least messy state possible. 🙂  Which is why I celebrate small victories! Continue reading

Meet Chip the cat! He’s a bit quirky, but we love him anyway!

When I graduated college, I adopted a cat I named Nala.  This past June I had to put her down, she was 14 years old.  It was a sad time, but she had cancer of the mouth with a large tumor that was affecting her ability to eat and her immune system wasn’t functioning well so her overall health went downhill fast.  We knew we were eventually going to get another cat because we still had Cutie our 3-year-old orange tabby. Continue reading

Letting Our Kids Go

This past weekend my boys and I ran in a fun run 5k for a school district fundraiser.  It was the first 5k  as a family and the first the boys have ever done.  I was nervous because I was not familiar with the area where it was held, we all ran at different levels and I didn’t know how crowded it would be.  So my solution was that we needed to stick together and run at the pace of the slowest runner.  My oldest was the faster runner of the three of us.  He would run ahead then jog in place until my youngest and I caught up.  He wanted to be able to tell his gym teacher that he, “ran the whole 5k without stopping”. Continue reading

Who am I and why blog?

Kids and MeWho am I?  And why am I blogging to you?

I’m a full time working mother and wife.  I’ve been saying for years that I wanted to blog and have thought about starting one a couple different times, but never really did much about it.  However, now feels like the right time.

So, Why do I think I can get this going now and why would anyone want to read it?  I think we have a lot in common. Continue reading

Taking Time to Reset

I received many responses to my last post of people in a similar boat as I am.  So, I thought a good follow up to the post I did last week would be to show how I took action on the items I mentioned I was going to do to help get me back to balanced.

I started by writing up my list of meals and snacks for the week.  I chose easy lunches, for work, that make more than enough so I could use those for several meals.  I also included dinners that were fairly easy with few ingredients.  The exception is one meal that I got from a cookbook that I’ve never made before.  But this will be our Friday meal, since we have nothing going on that evening and I can devote time to making it with out being rushed. Continue reading

Depression Is Creeping In

I want to open up a conversation on depression.  It’s not something I usually talk about, because…well…….I don’t really know why.  I think I see it as a sign of weakness (even thought I should know it’s not) and I’m always the one who’s supposed to be strong.  I’m always the one who’s supposed to be the one everyone counts on.  I don’t ask for help, I’m supposed to give it.

Since I’m new at blogging I don’t have many readers, but I do publish this to my Facebook.  So, in my mind, it feels like I’m risking a lot putting it out there in regards to how people perceive me.  I not only suffer from depression, but anxiety too, Continue reading

I’m in a love/hate relationship

I’m in a love/hate relationship….with running.  I started ‘trying’ to run two or three years ago.  I’ve done two 5K’s with a friend of mine, who was gracious enough to forgo a better finish time and to run/walk them with me.  She told me that after finishing one 5K, I’d be addicted and you know what, she was right!  I have even ran one this past fall by myself when none of my runner friends was able to come with.  I wasn’t able to keep running the entire time, but I was able to run 2 full miles and that was farther than I’ve been able to do before.  Now, I’m bound and determined to run an entire 5K this year. Continue reading